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November 3 2017

Michelle Blames Mom

by Julie Gunlock

It’s hard to figure out exactly what Michelle Obama was talking about yesterday at the Obama Foundation Summit in Chicago when she blamed American moms for raising “entitled” and “self-righteous” little boys.

Ms. Obama—whose striking expertise on the matter is even more impressive considering she has only raised daughters--explained that moms of boys are creating problems in the world because “we raise [boys] to be strong, and sometimes we take care not to hurt men. And I think we pay for that a little bit.”

If you watch the video of the discussion, it’s clear this was an unscripted conversation and one can certainly sympathize that in that format, people often say silly and impulsive things. But one wishes that Michelle Obama--a women with such an enormous megaphone and ability to reach so many people--would take care to understand the real condition of boyhood in this county.

Instead of feeling entitled, boys are largely forgotten in today’s educational system and larger culture. Boys, who mature later than girls and often have trouble sitting still in the classroom, struggle in schools that are designed to reward those who do sit still in class and pay attention (namely, girls). The results of decades of a school system designed to punish boys for natural behaviors is obvious in the grim statistics, which show:

  • Boys are less likely than girls to go finish high school.
  • Boys are less likely than girls to earn grad degrees.
  • Boys are more likely than girls to try drugs.
  • Boys are more likely than girls to become addicts.
  • Boys are more likely than girls to turn to crime and end up in jail.

Does this seem like entitlement and self-righteousness?

Yet, clearly tapping into the Weinstein narrative, Ms. Obama went on to say that “It’s powerful to have strong men but what does that strength mean? Does it mean respect? Does it mean responsibility? Does it mean compassion? Or are we protecting our men too much so that they feel a little entitled and a little, you know, self-righteous sometimes?”

Of course, it’s fine to question and analyze how people are raising their children (a subject the First Lady totally ignored when it involved parents actually feeding their children), yet to suggest that whole swaths of mothers are ignoring the pretty basic responsibilities of teaching boys to be good human beings is a bit of a stretch, if not a naked insult.

Instead of slamming moms, Ms. Obama should have had take the opportunity to examine the culture in which all children live and a pop culture that is ruled by the very Hollywood elite which has for years allowed entitled and self-righteous studio heads to harass and abuse women, and it now seems young children.

Ms. Obama might also have taken a moment to denounce the mainstream media—which is also reeling with accusations of systemic sexism and harassment from the captains of that industry.

So, perhaps instead of blaming the millions of moms out there who are currently coddling and encouraging their teeny misogynistic toddlers-monsters, the First Lady could have addressed our nation’s rotting culture and those who influence it.

That’s seems a slightly better path to creating an improved work environment for her daughters and all girls.

Independent Women’s Forum’s mission is to improve the lives of Americans by increasing the number of women who value free markets and personal liberty. Sister organization of Independent Women’s Voice.
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